It happens so easily. First the kids wake up on the wrong side of the bed, for about five days in a row. Your husband while not being rude or unkind chooses to ignore any issues related to your home, kids, or anything else that would require an in depth conversation with you. A major appliance in your home breaks down. You’re woken in the middle of the night by a vomiting child to be followed by three other vomiting children over the next week and a half. Oh yeah and your vehicles, we’re not even going there.
These are the times when your world has the potential to get incredibly small. It’s tough to look beyond the temporary inconveniences of life sometimes. We’re all guilty of this right? It’s easy to forget about those families hunched over tiny beds in the NICU, a stomach bug they would trade for in a heartbeat. Thoughts of incurable diseases, failing marriages, and wayward children make your “bad day” seem minuscule in comparison.
So how do we keep ourselves from living in our own little problems without seeing the bigger picture. While I’ll be the first to say that I struggle with this every time this comes up in my life, I will also say that these things seem to help when I’m trying to drag myself out of a pity party.
1. Pull out those mental notes – God gives you memories for a reason, use them. Think back to the last time you were in a similar situation, and how God got you through.
2. Choose carefully who you confide in- If you choose to talk it out with someone other than you spouse be sure it’s someone who will encourage you and not someone who is looking to point out all of the other bad things that could come out of what you are currently living in. You know the ones.
3. Pray, pray, and pray – You think God can’t help you to be joyful during a trial? Some of the most inspirational writings I read are from people who have gone through or are currently living in trials (big and small) in their lives. God is the only one who can give you peace when times get tough!
4. Pray for others – When times are tough in your home it’s easy to spend all of your prayer time on yourself. I find that taking time to pray for what others are going through helps to soften your heart and helps to keep your problems from closing in on you.
How do you keep yourself steadfast in the times of trials? I would love to hear!